Diagnosing memory problems can be difficult. Memory problems can be caused by depression, thyroid problems, a reaction between medications, dehydration, vitamin deficiency, stroke, infections, and dementia. If you are beginning to suspect that a loved one may be developing a memory problem, there are actions you can take immediately to help them.

1. Make an appointment with their health care provider. The doctor will do a physical exam, and review their prescription and over-the-counter medications. The doctor will also look at the person’s diet, health history, and overall health. There may be blood tests or brain imaging that needs to be done.

2. Make an appointment with a knowledgeable estate planning or elder law attorney to draw up a Durable Power of Attorney. By creating this document now – or, even better, well in advance of any memory issues – your loved one can decide who will be responsible for their finances and well-being when or if they should experience memory loss.

3. Once your loved one has been diagnosed with a memory problem, use a regular routine. Too much variety and stimulation can be confusing, whereas consistency will help your loved one to feel more secure. Write down important pieces of information. Keep new information simple and repeat it often. If possible, break down new activities into small steps.

4. Give verbal cues, such as “This is Anna, your niece, who came to see you.” Similarly, tell, don’t ask. “We are having dinner now” is often better received than “What would you like for dinner?” Be flexible and patient. People with memory loss are no longer grounded in reality, and reminding them of reality (for example, that their mother is deceased) is usually not helpful or compassionate.

5. Ask for help. There are no perfect caregivers and no one can do it all. Ask for help, and accept help when offered.

If you suspect your loved one may be starting to have memory issues, the time to act is now. Schedule a consultation today.